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Your feeling comes first, your mind comes afterwards
Our feeling is already there before we start thinking. I explain how that works, and why emotional awareness actually begins in your body.
Last week in a workshop on emotional intelligence I talked about the house you buy. You go to visit it and you stand in the living room. And somewhere inside you it thinks: I am going to feel good here. At that moment the decision has actually already been made. The calculation only comes later.
At the bottom of this article is a prompt that helps you to notice where a feeling is located in your body.
The illusion of the rational person
We like to live in the belief that we are rational beings. We think that we constantly make conscious choices. But that is actually not correct. What ends up in your shopping trolley is largely impulse. And the biggest financial decisions in a human life are exactly the ones most driven by emotion. I am thinking of the house and the car. If you were to buy a car purely on features, it is perfectly comparable to others. And yet you buy that specific one, because it looks nice.
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